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Going Through A Divorce: 10 Ultimate Sites for Transition

by DubG | Aug 23, 2023 | Blog, DIVORCE, DIY Divorce: The Self-Help Resource List

Introduction

Are you going through a divorce and looking for a lifeline, some guidance, or some advice? No matter how much or how little you want it, divorce sucks. It’s expensive, time-consuming, and draining in every sense of the word. Being a single parent going through it only adds to self-doubt, guilt, and a lifetime supply of therapy bills. No matter how well-meaningly you try to ‘lessen the impact’ on the kids with your masterful co-parenting plan,.

Let’s cut to the chase. We have compiled a list of 10 online resources that are about to rock your world harder than a toddler on a sugar high. These digital MVPs are like your virtual life coaches, steering you through the drama, despair, and disasters of divorce.

Tools For Going Through A Divorce

1. Sesame Workshop: This online hub delivers a treasure trove of free, bilingual resources designed to guide families through the labyrinth of divorce. The spotlight is on the vital trio of love, comfort, and care—essential ingredients for helping kids navigate the stormy seas of family upheaval. From insightful videos to captivating storybooks and engaging activities tailored to different age brackets, this digital haven equips you with the tools to tackle divorce’s challenges head-on. Got those awkward divorce-related questions from the little ones? Fear not; this hub offers strategies to tackle them like a pro. Don’t miss the Sesame Workshop: Divorce app, a lifeline for kids aged 2–8, braving the turbulence of separation or divorce. And that’s not all—you’ll also unearth gems on calming tactics, nurturing resilience in both kids and families, and unraveling the enigma of children’s emotions.

2. Ai Lawyer: Who knew AI could be your legal fairy godmother? Ai Lawyer swoops in with spells that translate legal gibberish into language you can actually understand. Wave your mouse over the link, and bam—you’ve got a trusty sidekick ready to tackle those court dragons without stealing your snacks. Services include legal assistance, state-specific motion and other form writing, legal research, legal analysis, and more. This is not a lawyer specific tool; although many use it, it’s so user-friendly and intuitive that anyone in a legal matter can benefit enormously from it. Use this link to sign up for a free trial and only $10 a week (cancel anytime) thereafter.

3.Calm: Going through a divorce isn’t just about splitting assets; it’s about helping you heal from being unhappy for so long and keeping your sanity intact too, which I did not do well at all, ever, in the least sense of that word, intact. . As a very high-energy person, divorce was the first time in my life that I even considered meditation because anything that could get me out of my own head, even for a few short moments, was worth my weight tin gold ( granted, I’m a skinny bitch). It’s not a cure-all, but at the very least it helped me become aware that I am capable of serenity, even if it is only for a glimpse of a second.

Support For Going Through A Divorce

4. Survive Divorce: Introducing the virtual blanket fort of the internet! Survive Divorce covers everything from heartache to wallet ache. It’s like a friend who hands you a box of tissues and then treats you to a spa day. You’ll emerge ready to face the world, or at least your ex’s lawyer.

5.WomensLaw.org: This digital haven spills the beans on a wide array of crucial topics, from divorce and custody to child support, restraining orders, housing laws, workplace safeguards, crimes, state gun regulations, and beyond. Gender or sex? There are no barriers here; the aim is to stand strong with all survivors of domestic violence.

Dive into state-specific laws, snatch up court forms that would take you an hour to find on the government’s site, breeze through quick guides, and catch a brief video that explains things you need to know with more clarity and less legal jargon. Have burning questions about going through a divorce? The answers are here in the frequently asked questions section. Not to forget, it’s your go-to for hunting down legal eagles, charting out safety strategies, and extending help to others wrestling with domestic violence.

6. SAS for Women: SAS for Women isn’t just a website; it’s a sisterhood. Picture a virtual tribe of women armed with webinars, articles, and coffee mugs filled with empowerment. When you are going through a breakup or divorce, there is no shame in needing a shoulder to cry on, even if it’s virtual. SAS for Women makes you feel like they’ve got your back, and they’re ready to boss-babe the heck out of divorce.

Resources For Going Through A Divorce

7. UpToParents.ORG: Here is your digital compass, packed full of strategies and resources, to get you through the twists and turns of co-parenting. This platform is all learning to cope and easing the journey for separated or divorced parents as they navigate the tricky waters of raising kids together. Offering a range of practical tools and resources, UpToParents.org is a one-stop-shop for parents seeking effective co-parenting strategies while going through a divorce. Dive into insightful articles, interactive exercises, and engaging activities that foster better communication, cooperation, and collaboration between parents. With a mission to nurture healthier parent-child relationships, UpToParents.org is your trusted co-pilot on the challenging path of co-parenting success.

Guru’s Who Help Those Going Through Divorce

8. Divorce For Dummies: I uncovered an unexpected gem in the “For Dummies” book series—one all about going through a divorce. Authored by John Ventura and Mary Reed, this book perfectly speaks to realists like me. I was pleasantly surprised by the impressive array of valuable resources it brings to the table. It’s a must-have addition to my list.

9. Surviving Divorce Podcast: GD Lengacher, your podcast guru, is like the Gandalf of divorce survival for people who are coping with a breakup. With personal stories and wisdom that could rival Yoda’s, GD’s insights are your lifeline in the tempest of going through a divorce. Trust him—he’s been through it and came out wiser than ever.

10. Divorce Well: have you ever heard of a podcast that’s like a soothing cup of chamomile tea? Divorce Well, hosted by Christina Vinters, is that podcast. It’s your guide to untangling the web of going through a divorce, and it’s like having a heart-to-heart with the wisest aunt you never knew you had.

Ladies, gentlemen, and everyone in between, these websites are your golden ticket through the tumultuous divorce ride. Bookmark them, share them, and let them be your virtual cheerleaders. Remember, in the world of divorce, you’re not just a player; you’re the headliner of your own show, and these websites are here to make sure you shine.

At Mom Versus the World, we’re all about arming single moms with wit, wisdom, and a dash of sarcasm. Stay tuned for more tales of triumph and hacks for conquering life’s craziest challenges. After all, the world might be against us, but we’re ready to prove it wrong, one hilarious battle at a time! 💪🎉

Survive Divorce: 15 Power Tips for a Strong Comeback

by DubG | Aug 23, 2023 | Blog, DIVORCE, DIY Divorce: The Self-Help Resource List

Introduction

For me, in a divorce that took five long years to finalize, I did not think I would survive divorce and often wondered, “Is there life after divorce at 40?” At Mom Versus the World, we get it, so we have compiled 15 tips to survive divorce, rebuild your life, and move on.

Getting a divorce is like remodeling a house; it’s messy and disruptive, and I would highly recommend relocating until it’s done. Whatever you thought it would cost, how much time it would take, that needs a multiple of at least three, but probably closer to six, and you’re never quite sure what you’ll uncover once you start tearing things apart, but if and when you do, you can bet it’s going to cost more money.

But after you knock down those walls and rip out the fixtures that were leaking and broken, you’re replacing them with something shiny and new. The end of a marriage doesn’t mean the end of you; it marks the beginning of a new you. You can and will rebuild your life, allowing the new you to shine more brightly and become a greater version of yourself. But don’t you worry, you can give those old pipes of yours a new lease on life, simply by giving them a good thrashing to get rid of the old rust left behind.

Tip 1: Embrace the Grieving Process (Without Scaring the Kids)

Scream louder than a toddler who just discovered the word ‘no’ in a grocery store. Curse angrier than my psycho Mini-Doodle, who is convinced the mailman is an evil supervillain and babies are trolls. Let out a roar that would make a Tsavo lion proud. Let yourself be angry and hurt and the crazy psychopath your ex called you probably more than once ( or is that just me?) Let yourself let it out. SCREAM.

Are you done?

Now cut the crap, lady! Get it together!!!! We’ve got work to do.

Tip 2: Acknowledge Your Fears (Then Show Them Who’s Boss)

Fear of the unknown? Oh, we’ve all had that stomach-churning realization at 2 a.m. But guess what? Fear makes a terrible roommate. Acknowledge it, take its lunch money, and use it to fuel the decisions that will turn your life around. Show those fears that they’re just your underlings or suffer the effects that long term stress has on your body, none of which is going to boost your datable number.

Tip 3: Practice Self-Care To Rebuild Your Life: It’s Not Just for Celebrities

Amidst the chaos, don’t forget to treat yourself like royalty. Get a massage, meditate, eat well, get rid of those stress wrinkles with a little filler, and a round Daxxify (my new favorite… yes… just yes) Slip into that bubble bath, devour a book like it’s a bag of your favorite chips, and embark on solo adventures that would make Indiana Jones jealous. DO YOU!

Tip 4: Seek Solace (or a Solid Chat) in Faith

Hello, higher power! It’s me, the one going through divorce. Whether you’re into meditation or chats with the universe, a little faith can work wonders. It’s like a spiritual spa day for your soul—a daily escape that doesn’t involve travel, lines, or awful spa music.

Dubg herself, live boxing session

Tip 5: Find Your Thing: Exercise, Yoga, Shopping…

Who knew that exercising for just 15 minutes could turn your day around? I box. I have a lot of anger left in me (I’m working on it people; don’t judge me) and believe me, it comes across loud and clear when I box. I love it. It’s my thing.

Find your thing

Tip 6: Find Your Squad, Your Life Raft, and Your People

Step 1: Find fellow divorcee’s who speak your language. If the divorce rate is close to 50%, I estimate at least 25% of people I interact with are divorced. Find them.

Step 2: Join support groups, online communities, or, hey, how about sparking up a conversation with a random person in line at the checkout? New squad recruit or not, it’s time to meet new people to fill your new life

Step 3: Bask in the camaraderie, laugh again, and yes, you do still snort when you laugh too hard. You’re not alone, and you’re not the only one who has an indent in their couch that shapes perfectly to their bum.

Tip 7: Accept That Not All Friendships Are Forever

Newsflash: Not everyone’s cut out for the drama of your personal soap opera. Some friends might exit stage left, but others will be your standing ovation. Keep those who stand by you, and who knows? You might just find new co-stars to share the spotlight with. Here’s the thing: life is short, so there’s no time to waste with people who don’t get you or don’t like you. Divorce is probably one of the top three hardest breakups of your lifetime. After that, pressing the ignore button when the snobby new PTA President calls because you didn’t send in the 50th form she sent yet will be as easy as it was in high school, and that’s really easy.

Tip 8: Co-Parent: For the Sake of Your Kids (and Sanity)

Welcome to the co-parenting universe, where you and your ex temporarily park the medieval weapons and tinfoil shields you’ve been using in your dueling matches to make room for a safe space dedicated to the little people you both helped bring into existence.

So, let’s slap on our big girl panties, give a nod goodbye to our epic eye rolls, and raise a toast to the finale (make mine a double) —it’s a wrap! The curtain has fallen on the drama.

Tip 9: Let Go of Regrets

Regrets? We’ve all got ’em. But remember, they’re like leftover pizza—enjoyable for about a minute or so, more so on those drunken nights coming home to an empty house, but they quickly turn stale and soggy, something that’s best forgotten. Use the past as a stepping stone to your glorious future, and if you need to, kick those regrets to the curb with a dramatic flair.

Tip 10: Rediscover You: Do One Thing You’re Afraid of Every Single Day

What did you love before marriage? Do you remember those dreams? What are you so afraid of? Go after them, take what you want and turn it into reality. But where do you start? For me, it’s this blog. Every day I write about something that is in me that needs to come out, because for years I feared the wrath of me being me. Well, here I am, folks. Love me or hate me, I’ll be me either way. And wear sunscreen 🙂

Today, do one thing you’re afraid of.

Tip 11: Listen Up (It’s Not All About You, Shocking, Right?)

Talking’s great, but so is listening. Friends and family—those are the people who remind you that you’re more than just your divorce saga. So put your expert storytelling on pause and let them have the mic. Trust us, it’s a win-win.

Tip 12: Have Minimal Contact with Your Mr./Mrs Ex

Think of your ex like a mosquito—annoying and better off at a distance. Unless it’s kid-related or legally obligatory, less contact means more space for healing and conquering the world. And who knows? The world could always use another conqueror.

Tip 13: Eat Healthy Foods for Energy and Clarity

What you eat matters, both for your body and your post-divorce glow-up. Chow down on those nutrients like they’re the secret to world dominance (spoiler: they kind of are). Your future self will thank you for showing your body some love.

Tip 14: Laugh Till Your Belly Hurts

Laughter is the world’s best medicine. Even in the messiest of times, it’s the glue that holds us together. Whether it’s a friend’s joke, a cute kid moment, or just finding the humor in an absurd situation, embrace those moments. They’re like little life rafts in the choppy sea of divorce.

Tip 15: Seek Professional Help (No Shame in That Game)

Hey, guess what? You’re not Wonder Woman—in fact, the term Super-Mom should be shunned like the 80-pound models that arose in the early 90’s. It sets an unrealistic expectation for all mothers to do it all. I accepted; I just can’t do it all, nor do I want to, because I’m really tired.

The emotional shocks and then the aftershocks can seriously mess with your groove, and the process itself is beyond exhausting in every possible sense of the word. If you feel hopeless and in absolute despair, you are not alone. Don’t hesitate to enlist some help. I did. Therapists and counselors are your partners in rebuilding, and it’s ok that we need help. It takes more strength to ask for help than it does to not and just give up.

Final Thoughts

So there you have it, the not-so-serious guide to emerging from the divorce chaos like the triumphant phoenix you are. At Mom Versus The World, we salute your power, your courage, and your boundless potential for turning the toughest situations into your most extraordinary adventures. Remember, you’ve got this—divorce, kids, and conquering the world, one sarcastic quip at a time.